What do I mean by going back to school? Well, we need to be constantly studying our spouses. We need to know their likes, dislikes, strengths, and struggles. Remember when you were dating? You wanted to learn everything you could about each other. So why should it be any different now that you are married?
We will never know everything about each other because we are always changing. It is okay that we change, but we have to be studying them to recognize the change. Don’t stress over it like it’s a test or something. Have fun and be creative.
Make your spouse a priority. Spend time with them every day. Just them without the kids or anyone else. Go for a walk, watch your favorite tv show, or sit on the porch and watch the sunset. Let them know how important they are to you. It is important to have downtime with each other. Next you need to start adding more conversation. Ask each other about their day. Find out what they are struggling with or dreaming about. The more you talk and listen, the more you will learn about each other.
The most important thing is to pay attention to one another. Listen to what each other is saying or not saying. Sometimes just observing each other’s behaviors we can learn a lot. Have fun being back at school. I can’t think of a better subject to be studying than our spouse.